Post #86(b) - Is He/She The One?

People will sometimes come into our lives to distract or test us. 

Are we praying to God? Are we listening? Are we focused on God and His desires for us? 

Too often than not, we don't pray to God about our potential mates. We fall for the first thing that smiles at us and are disappointed when the relationship doesn't work out. We could save ourselves a whole lot of heartache if we would just pray first.

The bible says that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favor from God (Proverbs 18:22). 

So, women, are you wife material when he finds you? Do you possess the qualities of a godly wife? Are you considering his relationship with God - if he even has one? Or are you only considering his chest and his arms? 

Men, are you choosing a woman because of her godly mind and qualities? Or only because of the qualities you can see with the eye? Are you consulting God about her? Are you asking whether or not she should be in your life?

Is she your good thing? 

One of the reasons so many relationships fail is because we enter them for the wrong reasons - with the wrong intentions. We are attracted to physical qualities or personality traits that draw our attention. But, soon, the very thing that seems to make us fall in love with the person is the thing that aggravates us the most. That wasn't love. But, likely, lust disguising itself as love.

This is why we must be sure before entering a relationship that the person is right for us. That the person is not a waste of our time. This is why we must go to God.

When we allow the wrong person into our lives, God works to show us that he or she should not be there. He raises a standard, not allowing us to accept anything less than what He's got for us. He gives us signs. He shows us where the person is not right for us and how we are unequally yoked. 

But we tend to ignore the signs. We allow our emotions to cloud our judgment. And we stay with the person longer than we are supposed to. 

Sometimes, it's not God's intention for us to enter into a relationship with the person. They were only supposed to be in our lives for a season. But we make marriage plans and vow to be with them forever.

This is where we go wrong. This is why our relationships fail.

It is important that before we allow ourselves into relationships and before we let them go too far, we pray about them - consult God and patiently listen for His response.

God will always guide us in the right direction and He will never leave us stranded in a dark place.